Can you believe it's already November? Sebentar lagi Desember, dan rasanya tahun ini berjalan begitu cepat. But when I look back, I realize that 2026 has taught me so, so many things. Buanyakkk sekali, bahkan mungkin lebih banyak dari yang pernah saya bayangkan.
There were things I had to learn the hard way, people who came and went, unexpected encounters, and experiences that completely changed the way I see life. And if there's one thing I know for sure, I am not the same person who started this year.
You can do something without necessarily loving it.
One thing I've learned is that not everything in life has to be something we love. Sometimes, we do things because they are necessary, because we have responsibilities, or simply because that's what life requires from us at a certain point. And that's okay. Kita bisa menjalani sesuatu dengan sepenuh hati meskipun itu bukan pilihan awal kita. Kita bisa tetap bersyukur tanpa harus selalu merasa bahagia, tetap berusaha meskipun sedang tidak bersemangat, dan menemukan makna dalam hal-hal yang awalnya tidak pernah kita bayangkan. Life isn't always about getting everything we want or loving every part of the journey. Sometimes, it's about making the best of where we are while staying open to where life might take us.
Never be afraid to tell your own story. ⭐
I have a story to tell. Dulu, seseorang yang pernah mengkhianati saya pernah bilang, "Nggak usah nulis blog, nanti kamu menggiring opini orang tentang aku." Haha. But here's the thing, I never even mentioned your name, dude. Saya hanya bercerita tentang pengalaman saya sendiri, tentang apa yang pernah terjadi dan bagaimana saya belajar darinya.
Just like Miley Cyrus said: "I didn't talk badly about you. I talked about what you did to me. If that makes you look bad, that's between you and your behavior." And I couldn't agree more. Telling the truth about my experience isn't bitterness. Sometimes, it's clarity. Saya tidak punya kewajiban untuk menjaga citra seseorang dengan mengorbankan suara dan pengalaman saya sendiri. And if sharing my story can make someone feel less alone or inspire them in some way, why should I stop? We shouldn't have to make ourselves smaller just because someone might not like our voices. Be yourself, do what you love, and don't let the fear of being misunderstood take that away from you.
I've become more comfortable with walking away.
Dulu mungkin saya akan menghabiskan banyak waktu untuk memahami seseorang, mencari alasan atas perilakunya, atau memberikan kesempatan berkali-kali. But now, I'm learning that not everyone deserves unlimited access to me. Saya menjadi lebih mudah mengambil jarak dan cut off ketika merasa seseorang atau sesuatu memang tidak lagi bisa berjalan dengan baik. Not out of anger, but because I understand that protecting my peace is also my responsibility. Sometimes, walking away is simply knowing when enough is enough.
I appreciate people who know what they want. ⭐
Makin ke sini, saya semakin sadar bahwa saya sulit berjalan bersama orang yang bahkan tidak tahu apa yang sebenarnya mereka mau. Bukan berarti semua orang harus punya rencana hidup yang sempurna, karena kita semua masih belajar dan mencari arah. But at least, be honest about what you want and be clear about what you're willing to do. Saya lebih menghargai effort yang nyata daripada sekadar kata-kata, konsistensi daripada janji, dan kejelasan daripada sesuatu yang terus dibiarkan menggantung. This applies to relationships, friendships, work, and almost everything in life. I don't expect people to have everything figured out, but I do appreciate people who are willing to figure things out.
Stop trying to make everyone happy.
Kita tidak bisa terus-menerus menjadi orang yang selalu mengerti, selalu mengalah, dan selalu menjaga perasaan orang lain sampai lupa menjaga diri sendiri. You can be a good person and still say no. You can love someone and still have boundaries. You can make decisions that disappoint others without making you a bad person. Not everyone has to understand your choices, and that's okay. Your life is not a performance that needs everyone's approval.
Allah can show His love through the good people He sends into our lives. ⭐
Menurut saya, salah satu tanda Allah sayang kepada kita adalah ketika di tengah pengalaman bertemu orang-orang yang tidak baik, Allah juga mempertemukan kita dengan orang-orang baik. People who remind us that kindness still exists, that sincerity is real, and that not everyone comes into our lives to hurt us. Sometimes, Allah sends the right people at the right time, not necessarily to fix everything, but to remind us that there is still so much goodness in this world. And for that, I am grateful. Because one bad experience should never make us lose faith in good people.
People change, and you should allow them to.
If you're still stuck on the past version of me, maybe the wrong one is you. People are dynamic. We grow, we learn, we make mistakes, and we become different versions of ourselves through everything we experience. Take me, for example. I used to be a quiet introvert, for some reason. But these days, I'm more of a quiet extrovert, sometimes. Haha. I still enjoy my own company, but I also love meeting people, having conversations, and putting myself out there in ways I probably wouldn't have done before. And that's the thing, people evolve. Pengalaman, lingkungan, dan fase kehidupan bisa mengubah banyak hal dalam diri kita. So, please don't keep defining someone by who they used to be. You don't get to "freeze" someone in a version that no longer exists just because that's the only version you remember. And if you still have trouble accepting that people can change, maybe it's time to heal yourself, sweethearts. We all have our own growing to do right? hihi.
Healing means learning to breathe again. ⭐
Sembuh bukan berarti tidak pernah sedih lagi atau tidak pernah teringat sesuatu yang menyakitkan. Healing is when the same memories no longer have the same power over you. Ketika kita bisa mengingat tanpa kembali tenggelam, menikmati hal-hal kecil lagi, tertawa lebih lepas, dan merasa nyaman dengan kehidupan yang sedang dijalani.
Sembuh bukan berarti tidak pernah sedih lagi atau tidak pernah teringat sesuatu yang menyakitkan. Healing is when the same memories no longer have the same power over you. Ketika kita bisa mengingat tanpa kembali tenggelam, menikmati hal-hal kecil lagi, tertawa lebih lepas, dan merasa nyaman dengan kehidupan yang sedang dijalani.
And honestly, it's crazy when I think about it. At the beginning of this year, I cried almost everyday. I was constantly stressed, emotionally exhausted, kadar kortisol super high sampai kondisi kulit saya ikut terdampak. But look at me now? I barely cry over those things anymore. More laughs, more genuine smiles, and a much lighter heart. Kalaupun sekarang menangis, biasanya justru karena terharu saat berdoa, mengingat Allah, merindukan Ebok, atau memikirkan keluarga. And I think there's something beautiful about that. My tears haven't disappeared, they've simply found different reasons to fall. Perhaps healing is not about becoming someone new, but finding the parts of yourself you thought you had lost.
The longest journey is finding your way back to yourself.
Ternyata perjalanan terpanjang bukan tentang seberapa jauh kita pergi atau seberapa banyak pencapaian yang berhasil dikumpulkan. Sometimes, it's simply coming back to yourself. Kembali mengenali apa yang kita suka, apa yang kita butuhkan, apa yang membuat kita bahagia, dan kehidupan seperti apa yang sebenarnya ingin kita jalani. Belajar menikmati waktu sendiri, tidak membandingkan perjalanan dengan orang lain, dan memahami bahwa kita tidak harus terburu-buru hanya karena orang lain terlihat sudah sampai lebih dulu.
And now, here we are. November.
Sebentar lagi tahun ini akan selesai. Kalau dipikir-pikir, banyak sekali hal yang sudah dilewati. Some made me happy, some made me sad, some made me question everything, and some completely changed the way I see people, relationships, and life itself.
I won't say that 2026 was an easy year. IT WASN'T HAHAHA. But I am grateful for the lessons, even the ones I never asked for. Saya juga tidak ingin berpura-pura bahwa semuanya sudah selesai atau saya sudah sepenuhnya memahami kehidupan. There are still things I'm learning, things I'm working on, and parts of myself that I'm still trying to understand. But at least, I know that I've grown.
And if I could tell the girl who started 2026 something, it would probably be this: You don't have to figure everything out. You don't have to keep everything together. Some things will fall apart, some people will leave, and some plans will change. But please, don't lose yourself trying to make sense of everything.
Here's to the last month of 2026. May December be gentle, may the remaining days bring us more clarity than confusion, and may we enter the next year with lighter hearts. We still have so much life to live. And I hope we get to live it beautifully. Hepi hepi sehat sehat ya kakak abang! :)
Love,
Humannisa💚
